Hi, my name is Megan and I am one of the trainers at KMJ.
This is a very different post for me, and the truth is its very hard to write.
It may seem like I’m a 24 year old successful business owner, but the truth is I struggle just as much as all of you.
I spent years struggling with an illness I didn’t know I had, that altered my identity and stole a part of my life.
We all need to feel we have some control over our lives, even if we don’t. Have you noticed you NEED to pack the dishwasher before leaving the house, or maybe you lay your clothes out the night before work, or you always place your belongings in a certain area of the house.
These are all ways of exhibiting control over an otherwise chaotic situation and in these scenarios is a normal, healthy part of the human condition. For those of us with a mental illness, and I know there are many of you among me, this interferes with our ability to carry out normal life.
Over time I have come to think of it as a piece of faulty wiring. Just like some people are born with a physical disability, some of us just happen to have a brain that functions a little differently.
Lately I have begun to think, if its just a piece of faulty wiring we have, is there a possibility that rewiring our brains may fix it?
The brain is made up of a complex network of systems, which affect our thoughts, moods, actions, physical ability and intelligence. If certain events or thoughts are wiring us to think, feel and act in one way, why couldn’t rewiring help us to change the way we think?
See the subconscious mind does not know the difference between what is true and what is not true. What feedback it receives, is what you will believe to be true. Positive feedback in = positive feedback out and so the cycle continues.
For years I told my subconscious, or rather it told me, that if I just lost 1 more kg, got that extra high distinction, changed my appearance, that I would be a happier person. I would fit in, I would achieve perfection and life would work out. That is what I needed to do to make my family happy and myself happy.
The truth is, it was me that was making myself unhappy on this quest for perfection. I had told my subconscious that I wouldn’t and couldn’t be happy until I had achieved this extreme level of perfection. But why is it that I could only be happy with a number on the scale, it doesn’t define my value as a person, its simply a numerical figure?. I felt as though I was disappointing myself and all those around me if I didn’t achieve perfection – I was placing value on myself in all the wrong places.
I was trying to please others and had no idea of my own value or purpose.
But there is another side to this condition, a side you crave and that keeps you alive. Its one of creativity, inspiration and passion. It’s the drive and high you get when ideas flow and your feel you are floating on a cloud, gliding along with ease.
Whilst fun and alluring these periods often rarely last, which leaves the need for a strategy!
Let’s revisit the idea of rewiring the brain…
Have you ever told yourself “I can’t do this, its too hard” then you tried and weren’t able to do it?
Think about when you complete a task you KNOW you are good at. You approach it with confidence, and so you are able to do it with ease.
There is no difference in your ability with these 2 scenarios. The only difference is a brain that has been wired to believe it is incapable, and so it no longer sends follow up signals to complete the task. You are effectively cutting short your own ability
For years I have cut short my own ability, and there are still days when I catch myself doing it. The difference is awareness.
Listen to your intutuion!
Over my 24 yrs on this planet I have learnt our intuition is a magnificent thing and if you ignore it there is a strong chance you will make the wrong decision.
Reframing your ideas takes time and lots of hard work, but it is possible. By focusing on the good in life, you are attracting what you believe to be true.
Through time and hard work I’ve learnt to place value and happiness on my achievements and the blessings I have been given.
It wasn’t until I decided to take control of my own beliefs that I began to find my true purpose. I moved from seeing exercise as a way of control – controlling my body, my weight and my value, to seeing a strong and incredible body that allows me to do great things.
That feeling of euphoria a strong, health body gives you and the confidence that comes with it. It was then that I wanted to share this passion and give that feeling to other wonderful ladies – and so KMJ was born.
I am grateful to have found my passion in life. Nothing gives me greater joy than seeing other kind and deserving women develop confidence and belief in themselves. See I don’t see my job as a trainer, I see my job as an opportunity to makes others feel better about themselves.
Thankyou to all the wonderful ladies who let me live my passion on a daily basis. We have created a beautiful, fun, dysfunctional family full of laughter and joy that makes coming to work each day a delight.
Life is hard and we need to support each other to get through it. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, make you laugh and bring joy into your life.
If you find yourself getting caught in negative thoughts, try to ask yourself why. Write them down, find out where the negative is coming from and how to counteract it.
Surround yourself with a support system of people who you trust and call on them in times of need.
Most of all, the smallest gesture can have the biggest impact on a person’s life and the ability to change things around for them.
If you need help, just reach out. I’m with you every step of the way!